So your single and ready to mingle but first you have to go through the painful process of process of writing the dreaded online dating profile. I know what you’re saying, “I can’t believe I’m back on this God Forsaken Site!” Hopefully this time, Prince Charming or Angelina Jolie is going to find you and whisk you off to Never Never Land. Probably Not!
If you are not used to writing & talking about yourself this can be a nerve racking experience. Thankfully there are a few parallels between writing a blog post and writing a dating profile. First and foremost I am a blogger and not one to give dating advise; however, I thought it might be interesting to give a few profile optimization tips to help you get your love on!
A great headline can make all the difference between spending more time with your cat and meeting your hunk of burning love. Your headline needs to capture someones attention. Say something unusual, unexpected, outrageous, humorous or provocative just don’t be boring or negative. If the first line of your profile reads “Single independent woman seeks nice man, there is a reason you are still single, change it immediately.
This should go without saying but your profile needs to be interesting. You need to sell yourself. Everybody loves romantic walks on the beach, hanging out with friends, snuggling under a blanket on a brisk fall day, and holding hands; Fantasy Land is a magical place, isn’t it? Seriously Casanova, the real you is eventually going to come out so be real from the beginning.
Trust me when I say the real you is much more interesting then the person you are pretending to be. Tell the person reading your profile about you and what makes you tick, give then a peek behind the curtain. Talk about your quirks and idiosyncrasies, it shows you are human and approachable.
Don’t use to many action verbs like I’m out going, I’m fun loving, I’m adventurous, etc. Can you be anymore general, be specific. Talk about your outlook on the world, what interests you, your favorite things, food you like, dreams, hopes and inspirations and your value system. You know, the things that great conversations are made of.
Although it might be tempting to use a picture that shows you in better shape, younger, and with more hair, don’t. Make sure you use a recent picture that shows what you look like at the time you post your profile. It is also important to use at least one photo that shows you smiling and having fun, if somebody wanted to date someone one who looks miserable, they would probably still be with their ex!
Speaking of your ex, try not to use pictures with his or her face scratched out. The group shot at the bar probably isn’t a good idea either. The person looking through profiles does not want to guess which one of your friends is you. Make sure your profile picture is large enough for people to get a good idea what you look like. If things progress the real you will have to show up, not the image in the profile.
Remember it’s o.k. to be you. Real woman have saggy curvy parts. Real men are missing chunks of hair and fat handles. If you need more inspiration check out this video dating montage on YouTube that I found from the 80′s. I look forward to your thoughts and good luck!
